Our brains believe in self-preservation.
It’s why we don’t want to go to the gym today. And why we can’t find the courage to approach that cute girl at the coffee shop. And why we want to stay inside on a cold day.
Those situations present discomfort. Chances for pain or rejection.
Our bodies don’t like that.
It’s this self-preservation mode that also leads us to blame others when mistakes are made. It’s natural to deflect, to mitigate our roles in any wrongdoing, to defend our reputations.
But it’s wrong to do so.
Taking the blame, even if it’s not your fault, even if it’s obvious someone else screwed up, is one of the most noble things we can do.
By doing so, we empower the people around us. We earn their trust and respect. Then, the next time a similar situation occurs, they’ll do their very best to ensure they repeat the mistake, knowing it’s likely that you’ll take the fall again.
And the truth is, none of us are perfect. We can always improve. We can always handle a situation .001 percent better. Any time an error is made, it’s very likely that we made some much smaller error along the way, something that could have prevented all this.
Perhaps we didn’t communicate clearly enough. Or think something all the way through. Or put others in the best position for success.
By taking accountability, you’ll get better for next time. And if you’re better, then everyone else around you will be better too.
Isn’t that what all of us want?