July 9, 2021

don't feel ashamed about making changes: a takeaway from Cati Hendron.

don't feel ashamed about making changes: a takeaway from Cati Hendron.

Ten months ago, I started this podcast with the intent of talking to young people from all walks of life.

We spend so much of our twenties unnecessarily worrying about having our shit together. We focus so much of our precious energy stressing about the things we don’t have, totally losing sight of all that we do have along the way.

I’m certainly guilty of it.

Earlier this year, I made the decision to leave Connecticut and my job at a globally-renowned company.

Inside, I panicked. I wondered if it'd be a massive mistake. Others around me wondered the same thing.

Six months later, although I miss the company and my charming Connecticut life, I don’t regret my decisions.

And yesterday’s guest on the podcast, Cati Hendron, won’t either. 

If you missed it, Cati attended beauty school and then entered the hairstyling business. For two or three years, she styled, colored, dyed and trimmed the hair for thousands of people across the Capital Region.

One day, she decided it was no longer right for her.

She looked inward, asking herself all sorts of tough questions, like all of us must constantly do.

“I was very lost,” Cati told me. “I was conflicted. Did I fail at this? Am I just figuring everything out? I'm in my twenties. Oh my gosh, I'm going to be 30. I'm going to die. I don't know what I want to do with my life.”

We feel you, Cati.

As TikTok star Jillian Bennett told me on the podcast a few weeks ago, life doesn’t stop when you’re 30. Maybe our 30s can actually be the best decade of our lives. Maybe all of this worrying we do just prepares us for the next bigger and better chapter.

Understanding life is short, and that we can only be our best selves if we do what we truly love, Cati made a big decision.

She decided to go back to school to become an English teacher.

(Insert clapping emoji.)

I first met Cati in 2013 when we both worked at Afrims Sports, the first job I’ve ever had. For the next four years, I hustled alongside her, watching Cati work her magic. Kids love her. They look up to her. They have fun with her.

That’s why you have no reason to be scared, Cati. You got this. Thank you for sharing your story.

And to the rest of you readers, viewers and listeners:

If you wake up every day dreading going to work, it’s time for you to make a change. 

Maybe you just need to find a new company elsewhere. Or perhaps negotiate a full-time remote deal.

Or, go back to school and pursue what you truly love.

Cati said going back to school was the best thing she could have done. She’s not ashamed of it. And if you choose to, you shouldn’t be either.

“We can't expect people to do things on that set timeline of, go to college at 18, graduate at 21, go to get a Masters degree and go right into the workforce,” Cati told me. It’s different for everyone.”

Damn right it is.

Forget the timelines we’ve been fed our whole lives. Forget “having it figured out.”

None of that matters.

All that matters is you and your happiness.


Have a great weekend, y'all.


If you missed it, here's how you can watch or listen to my conversation with Cati.