No one wants to make mistakes.
We don’t intentionally mess up on the job, make a wrong turn, or go on a date with that weird guy or gal from Hinge.
But for all of us, especially young people, mistakes can create invaluable learning experiences.
Take advantage of them.
The Stoics lived by a saying, “amor fati,” or, “love of fate.”
This means that when we make a mistake, or if something bad happens to us, we shouldn’t feel sorry for ourselves or cast blame.
Instead, the Stoics would argue, if we shift our perception, we can turn those obstacles into opportunities. If we “love” and become grateful for that misfortune, we then can focus on learning from it rather than getting upset by it.
So the next time you regret an Amazon purchase, don’t hate yourself over it. Try taking a step back and saying to yourself, “You know what? I’m glad this happened. In fact, I love that this happened.”
By changing your viewpoint, maybe you’ll understand you don’t need as much as you think. Or you’ll realize you can’t spend your way to happiness, and that no amount of cool stuff will ever fill the voids in your life.
We don’t have enough life experience yet to do everything right, so mistakes are inevitable.
Own up to them.
Most importantly, don’t beat yourself up. No one expects you to have this all figured out now.
And the best part? The stakes are low. In 10 years, that might not be the case.
Right now, mistakes are the best thing that can happen to you.
If you view them correctly, the next time you’re faced with a similar situation, you’ll do better, and be better, for it.
Fall in love with your mistakes.
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