Jan. 3, 2022

my biggest flaw to fix in 2022.

my biggest flaw to fix in 2022.

One of my favorite authors, Ryan Holiday, put out this post on LinkedIn the other day, titled “9 Short Rules for a Better Life.”

I agree with all of Holiday’s keys and am happy to say that I incorporate these practices into my life.

Except for one.

No. 4: “Strict with yourself, forgiving of others.”

If you know me, you know how hard I am on myself.

I wake up and go to bed at the same time every day. I must go for a walk after dinner each night, no matter the conditions outside. I can’t eat within three hours of bedtime or go a day without writing in my journal.

I can’t watch TV because what’s the point? I can’t mindlessly scroll through Instagram because what’s the point? How do those things make me better?

And that’s just scratching the surface.

The problem is, I expect everyone else to think like this too.

Of course, that’s ridiculous. The standard I hold myself to is:

  1. Unfair
  2. Unhealthy
  3. Unforgiving

I’m aware of this. Yet, I won’t change it.

It works for me. I’ve accomplished a lot in my first five years of adulthood largely because of this drive and discipline, so why fix something that isn’t broken?

But I should change my expectations for others.

Over the past few months, I’ve become angry with colleagues who don’t treat their work with the same white gloves as I do. I’ve silently judged friends for sleeping in on a Saturday morning. I’ve called out my dad for eating dessert before bedtime.

I don’t like that version of me. 

And I will work hard to make sure I leave that guy back in 2021.