Aug. 6, 2021

take a chance on yourself: a takeaway from Amanda Foster.

take a chance on yourself: a takeaway from Amanda Foster.

Earlier this year, my roommate and I decided to leave our beautiful townhouse in Connecticut.

We loved that place. We made memories there. For a long time, we woke up smiling every day, grateful for our home and one another.

But then our respective situations changed.

My job at ESPN morphed into something I couldn't do anymore. Ditto for my roommate, the guest on yesterday's podcast, Amanda Foster, whom I met at ESPN in the summer of 2019.

For the sake of our physical and mental health, Amanda and I understood we needed to leave. 

But the decision to do so didn't come lightly. It took weeks of phone calls with friends and family, as well as conversations with one another. We made pros and cons lists, oftentimes trying to convince ourselves to stay, that we could fight through it.

When it came time for Amanda to put her two-weeks notice in, even after we'd sold most of our stuff and booked moving trucks, she nearly reversed course.

But I told her she needed to go through with it.

A couple weeks after that, I also second-guessed myself. But Amanda reminded me that I needed to close this chapter of my life so I could move on to bigger and better things somewhere else.

Easy for her to say, because she had a job waiting for her back home. And an awesome living situation.

As for me? I was running away, but had nowhere to run.

And that scared me. 

If you've been following the show in 2021, you know what happened next. I found a few freelance gigs, moved to Denver, ramped up the effort on my podcast, traveled the West and eventually came back to the East Coast to figure out my next personal and professional moves.

As I write this today, I've finally decided where to live and I have a number of really exciting professional opportunities coming my way shortly.

As for Amanda, she drove across the country and moved back into her childhood home. She prepared for a substitute teaching job, but then FOX Sports, ESPN's top competitor, came calling. A position in Tempe, Ariz., not far from her hometown of Gilbert, opened up, and she accepted it.

So Amanda worked at FOX for a few months. But then a full-time teaching job came available, and she made the leap out of sports media into a field she had always dreamt of getting into. She's only been teaching for three weeks, but so far, so good, she told me yesterday.

I bring you these stories for the same reason I wanted to speak to Amanda on the podcast this week.

I want to show you that you CAN make the leap.

I know it's terrifying.

I know your mother will disapprove.

I know it will be difficult to figure out what's next.

But I truly believe that, if you're a good person who goes out of her way to make the world a better place every day, the world will reward you.

I know this because Amanda and I find ourselves living such happier and more well-rounded lives today than we were at the beginning of 2021. We're working normal hours at jobs we love, making more money doing so, and living where we want.

But it's something Amanda and I certainly didn't envision when we were crying on the floor of our townhouse earlier this year.

If you're unhappy in your job, or living situation, or relationship, I know the prospect of leaving seems daunting. Because of that, you might remain in that toxic situation longer than you should.

But I promise you, once you take the leap, you'll be so proud of yourself for doing so.

And you'll land on your feet a lot faster than you think.

You can do this. I promise you.

Have a great weekend y'all.


(if you missed my conversation with Amanda Foster, please listen or watch it by following these links.)