Dec. 10, 2021

why relationships are the most important thing.

why relationships are the most important thing.

A million essays have already been written on this topic.

Let’s make it a million and one.

Yes, it’s that important.

You are who you surround yourself with.

It’s cliche. But this theory stands the test of time for a reason.

If you’re upset with your life’s current progress, if you’re not where you want to be, just take a look at the people around you.

Your friends, family, colleagues, mentors, romantic partners -- do they lift you up? Do they encourage you? Do they inspire you? Do they teach you? Do they motivate you? Do they stand by you? Do they listen to you?

Or do they hold you back?

Do they tear you down? Do they disrespect your time? Do they constantly complain? Do they never ask about your life? Do they only receive and never give?

If someone close to you does any of those things, then you need to remove them from your life. 

Now. Immediately. Before it’s too late.

Because if you spend too much time surrounded by that kind of negativity, you will inevitably become that person too.

Misery loves company.

So cut the toxins out of your life and never look back. 

It will involve difficult conversations. It will involve the severing of relationships that you may never repair.

It will hurt. It will take time to get over.

But people will always come and go from your life. That’s just how it is.

The reality is, every person close to you should make you better in some small way. They should challenge you, get you out of your comfort zone, show you new ways of thinking.

Or maybe they just make you laugh, or they’re a person to go on adventures with. Those relationships are equally as important.

And as you get older, you’ll learn that it’s a game of quality over quantity.

In high school and college, you had so many friends. So many people in your circle. So many people you could call up to hangout.

The second you walk across that stage, a lot of those people disappear, almost overnight.

That’s fine. Let them. If they don’t make any efforts to stay in your life, then you’re better off without them anyway.

But the ones who stick around?

Hold onto them for dear life.

You’ll need those people, especially early on.

Life will throw you curveballs, and you’ll need to lean on those people more than you ever have before.

So make sure that good people are there to catch you when you fall.

It’s that important.