Dec. 14, 2021

you have SO much time.

you have SO much time.

For twenty-somethings like us, the number 30 is confusing.

Society has told us that by age 30, we need to have all of our shit together.

By age 30, we should be several years into the careers of our dreams. We should be married. And if we’re not married, then we should be with the person we hope to marry. We should already be paying our monthly mortgages on a 30-year plan for a house.

The expectations cause us so much anxiety in our day-to-day lives, forcing us to enter relationships we shouldn’t be in, buy useless shit we don’t need, take on more work than we should, and make other reckless decisions just so we can satisfy the path laid out by the generations before us.

News flash: It’s not 1950 anymore.

The average life expectancy is no longer 55-65 years old. The “you need to have it figured out by 30” mindset was cultivated then during a much different time in history.

Today’s average life expectancy is between 75 and 85 years old.

Modern medicine is better. We’re more educated on how to live a healthy lifestyle.

Translation: You have more time than you think.

You don’t need to have all the answers to life’s biggest questions by 30. Better yet, you might not need them by 40!

So stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Give yourself permission to fail and to try new things. Don’t commit to a certain path just because you think you need to meet an arbitrary deadline.

Stop the comparisons. Don’t worry about the path others are on. Just focus on you and your journey, on being a good person, doing the right thing, enjoying the process, and the chips will fall into place when the timing is right.

It might happen at 32. Maybe 38.

And that’s perfectly OK. It doesn’t mean you’ve fallen behind or that you’re a failure.

It means you know what you want, and that you won’t settle for anything below the life that you demand for yourself.

And that should be celebrated, not demonized.