May 27, 2021

traveling: stop dreaming and start doing.

traveling: stop dreaming and start doing.

After talking about my Tuesday night at a townie bar in Gilbert, AZ, I discuss why it's so important for young people to get out there and see the world. We all say we want to see new places, but we rarely actually follow through with it.

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Today's essay:

We talk a big game.

And now, with the pandemic’s end drawing near, we’re talking even louder.

Think of all the traveling we’ll do. Think of the weekend getaways, the concerts, the sporting events and the new restaurants.

Some of us will back up that talk.

But sadly, the vast majority of us won’t.

When it comes time to book flights, choose dates, make reservations and buy tickets, we often back out -- the initial excitement about the adventure a thing of the past.

Why?

Because we’re afraid. Afraid to get uncomfortable. Afraid to travel alongside someone we don’t know well. Afraid to see a place that we may not actually enjoy. Afraid to go alone.

And afraid of the process.

When decisions need to be made, we shrivel up.

And then we make excuses.

“I can’t leave my dog behind that long.”

“I can’t take off work.”

“I’ll wait until the prices are lower.”

The last one is my favorite.

I get it. Most of us don’t make the type of money that allows us to spend freely on all of the experiences we want.

But that’s irrelevant.

Travel while you’re young and able. Don’t worry about the money; it will come back. And if it doesn’t, you’ll figure it out. You always do. The experience will be worth the temporary discomfort.

If you really want to live a life of adventure, stop dreaming and start executing. Stop talking and start living.

You’ll learn amazing things about yourself and the world if you just pull the trigger. You’ll tell stories that others will envy. You’ll connect with others who share similar experiences. You’ll create memories worth cherishing forever.

The pandemic has shown us that life is short. It can be taken from you at any moment.

The world is yours for the taking.

So what are you waiting for?

peace and love.

Transcript

Good afternoon, everyone. And welcome in another episode of The Troy Farkas Show, a podcast that is not about me. It's about all of us. The twenties are a crucial time in our lives. And on this show, we navigate the highs and lows of early adulthood together. And I have to apologize for the delay in this episode, being out there into the world, uh, kind of along the lines of the highs and lows of early adulthood.

So I'm very much a person. Uh, as I established last week, loves doing spontaneous shit loves just kind of dealing with the consequences later of decisions I make that I really want in the moment. And so Tuesday night, I'm out here in Arizona. I've been having a good time so far and I'm in Mesa and I'm seeing my friends, this great girl that I lived with in Connecticut.

Amanda, shout out to you, Amanda. And, um, She lives in Gilbert, Arizona. I never heard of Gilbert Arizona until she told me about it, but she has always spoken so highly of it. So I said, all right, I want to see Gilbert, Arizona, take me around town to see Gilbert, Arizona. And so we get together Tuesday night.

And I should have known that the night was going to go sideways. When we first got dinner at the salad place that she told me about, and the girl there messed up my order. I said, no dressing, and I want chicken in it. And they gave me dressing and no chicken in it. So I should've known from that point on that it was going to be a rough night.

Anyway, I also didn't know that we were going to go out that night. I guess I probably should have assumed, but I didn't think we were going to, so I wasn't prepared as I've told you guys, I, uh, wake up super early. So I'd woken up at. Five around 5:00 AM that day and was not prepared physically to be out all night.

So. That was going to be a problem. But anyway, we go to this place, uh, we get, we get a drink at this place while we wait for another place that is doing on Gilbert road in town town, Gilbert on Gilbert road, go figure for $25 bottle of wine and a bruschetta board. Rescate that if you want to be one of those people, um, basically you get a bottle of wine and.

You can choose four different types of bruschetta, uh, on that's going to be served to you on a platter. And so we all get our own bruschetta boards. We're in a group of five, we get three bottles of wine. So we just hang out at this place at 10:00 PM, full capacity, no mass it's as if there was never a pandemic ever.

It was, it was, it was really cool to see I'm now officially, fully vaccinated and all of these people I'm sure. Hoping are as well, but so it was really cool to be back in action, downtown, having a good time, loving life, beautiful weather. I mean, when it's nighttime in Arizona, it feels so good. And uh, wearing short sleeves.

Good times. Good people. Good drinks. Good vibes. Absolutely loved it. The bruschetta was so good. I got some bruschetta with prosciutto, some with hummus, some with, um, with pesto salmon, it was fire like absolute fire. So if you ever make it. Down to downtown Gilbert. I do suggest you do the Tuesday night deal.

Twenty-five dollars, some bottle of wine. I'm a big red wine guy and bruschetta. So that was then, and then we went to the townie bar. Down the road called champs. And this is where you find your characters, your people that I'm like, what are you doing out on a Tuesday night? Don't you have something better to go do.

But of course, here I am being the one that's like, oh, Hey, it's Tuesday night and I'm out. And I'm hammered after just having a lot of bruschetta and wine at this place. And so we go to the, we go to the sports bar and we ended up hanging there for about four hours. And about midnight, I was. Don I was done in the terms of, I am so freaking tired.

I want to get out of here, but, uh, the group I was with just was not ready to yet. So I had to had to persevere, uh, one of the guys we were with got kicked out for falling asleep in the bar and turns out we got a message from that guy the next morning, who said, what the heck happens last night, I woke up in some random person's escalate.

So, I guess he just, uh, went outside of the bar, open the car and went to sleep and a random person's escalated. And that person never discovered him sleeping in his car. So that's that. And then we stayed up. At the bar all night, I ended up having to, I had sobered up several hours after the fact, as I realized that, okay, I'm going to have to be the one that has to drive, drive us home here.

So I ended up driving us home. By the time we get home, it's about 3:30 AM. Mind you. I'm supposed to wake up about five 30 to go to Sedona, Arizona that day. And we of course blow past that deadline. We don't wake up until about eight 30, but meanwhile, keep in mind. I had essentially been up for. 22 hours and then get four hours of sleep and then have to go have a day.

So I am not doing well. And my, uh, my partner here, Amanda is doing perhaps even worse than me because she drank more than I did. And so then we ended up going making the Trek to Sedona. This is Wednesday last yesterday. And I'm making the trip to Sedona, which if you don't know, Sedona is supposed to be this place forward, it's kind of known for its vortexes, its healing powers.

You enter the vortex of Sedona and you maybe don't feel it in the moment, but once you leave, you're supposed to feel calmer and um, more self-reflective and it was very interesting. Um, So I, I wanted to, I wanted to go check it out in the scenery. Of course, red rocks. Uh, absolutely beautiful. So it was really cool.

So we ended up going there doing a little hike there, going downtown Sedona, took some cute photos and I really enjoyed it. Then we came back and then I had to meet my dad in downtown Phoenix to go to Arizona Diamondbacks game, the local. MLB team. We get Mexican food before this really good at Los dos.

Multidose in Phoenix. If you ever make it out here, so good. And then we went to the Diamondbacks game. They lost, unfortunately, and then got back here. At home in Mesa last night, around 10 30. And by this time I had a couple more things to do to put out a new podcast episode for you guys to hit in the morning, but I was just so freaking tired.

And I figured that you guys might understand. Uh, so hopefully the story that came came out of it was worth it. The few hours delay here. So, uh, thank you for tuning in and for joining me, I hope you really enjoyed Monday's conversation with Alan, the eights. I thought that was a really powerful conversation.

I so respect his intelligence, his openness, his honesty, and I hope that all of you out there have perhaps had your minds opened if they were not already. Um, I think the black lives matter cause, and just the whole human rights cause of just treating people equally, uh, is something that we, as young people are pushing for, that we care about and that we find to be one of the most critical issues in our lives right now.

And as we go forward, here we are on the front lines of this. We are pushing forward a better world and it is our kids that will really help push for a better world in more ways and more powerful and long lasting ways. Then we can. So I hope you guys enjoyed that. Took some things away from it and. What reminded you about the lessons of the past year and how we need to keep thinking about things, keep thinking about how we can be nicer, how we can, uh, take into account our own biases and realize that yes, most of us are privileged that we have grown up a certain way and that there are some certain things, because I know I certainly have to.

Just the place. I grew up, the people I grew up surrounded by put certain belief systems in me that I don't want there. And it is an active thing that I have to fight every day. And I am here because I want to just, like I said, I love people and I want everyone to be loved and feel love. And, uh, that is something that, that I am working.

Toward being better at every day. And I hope all of you are as well. Um, so onto today's essay again, we've, we've switched how we do things this week. We'll be back to normal next week, but all of this that I'm doing right now, all this traveling has me thinking about how. I'm sure a lot of you have maybe have group messages with your friends or something, or you talked to your family about, oh, I want to go do this.

I want to go do that. I want to travel here and here and here. And then you guys never actually really get beyond step two of the 10 step process that it is that is planning out. A trip for a couple of days somewhere else, because we get bogged down into the details we get, we get freaked out about certain things.

No one can never agree on anything and you never ended up doing that thing that you want to do. And that thing that you were so excited for, and my, my thing here is just like, do what you want to do, figure it out essentially. So that's kind of what this essay is going to be about. And you can also find it.

It is posted right now on the Troy Farkas show.com. It is called. Traveling, stop, dreaming and start doing enjoy.

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We talk a big game.

And now, with the pandemic’s end drawing near, we’re talking even louder.

Think of all the traveling we’ll do. Think of the weekend getaways, the concerts, the sporting events and the new restaurants. 

Some of us will back up that talk.

But sadly, the vast majority of us won’t. 

When it comes time to book flights, choose dates, make reservations and buy tickets, we often back out -- the initial excitement about the adventure a thing of the past.

Why?

Because we’re afraid. Afraid to get uncomfortable. Afraid to travel alongside someone we don’t know well. Afraid to see a place that we may not actually enjoy. Afraid to go alone.

And afraid of the process.

When decisions need to be made, we shrivel up. 

And then we make excuses.

“I can’t leave my dog behind that long.”

“I can’t take off work.”

“I’ll wait until the prices are lower.”

The last one is my favorite. 

I get it. Most of us don’t make the type of money that allows us to spend freely on all of the experiences we want.

But that’s irrelevant.

Travel while you’re young and able. Don’t worry about the money; it will come back. And if it doesn’t, you’ll figure it out. You always do. The experience will be worth the temporary discomfort.

If you really want to live a life of adventure, stop dreaming and start executing. Stop talking and start living. 

You’ll learn amazing things about yourself and the world if you just pull the trigger. You’ll tell stories that others will envy. You’ll connect with others who share similar experiences. You’ll create memories worth cherishing forever. 

The pandemic has shown us that life is short. It can be taken from you at any moment.

The world is yours for the taking.

So what are you waiting for?

so hope you guys all enjoyed that essay because I really just wanted to share with all of you that what I'm doing right now, all this traveling that I'm doing, like I said, I don't know where I'm going to be. Next week I might be in California, might be in Oregon. I'm going to be in the Northeast in a couple of weeks.

All of these things, we're doing all of these things. First. I want to say it's not glamorous. It's hard. Again, all the booking you're spending money. Um, You're never stable. You're never able to get into a routine really. So there are inherent downsides to it that people don't see. Everyone sees the pictures and the new experiences and the learning and all that is great, but it is not everything.

Traveling is not a glamorous thing. And it's often lonely. It is often a depressing. You are maybe homesick or you miss people. So let me be the first to say that it is not perfect. But it is fun and I do enjoy it. And I do think it's important, which is why I want all of you to do it as well, because you can, and you say you want to so stop getting bogged down in the detail.

It's just make it happen. Just figure it out. That quote that I had in there, um, was something that I had had shared with me when I was in Scotland. The quote was that I had in the essay travel while you're young enabled. Don't worry about the money. It will come back. That is so important because when I was in Scotland, 2016 poor college kid, I was just thinking about, oh, I can't spend money on this.

I can't spend spend money on this. I can't go to Italy next week. Cause I just need to save money. I, this $300 that all of this is going to cost me. I just can't. I just can't deal with it. I can't spend it. And I freaked myself out about it until my mom saved the day and gave me $150 or something that. I would pay her back at some point to, to help out with the costs.

And it just gave me kind of a new perspective. Troy, you're gonna miss going to Italy for a week because of $300, put it on the credit card. You'll make it up. You'll figure it out. You always do. As I said, a couple of weeks ago, human beings are highly resilient. We adapt to our situations. We figure it out.

Traveling is something that is really important to me and I don't care about the money. I don't have all the money in the world, especially right now, I'm losing, I've lost a job a couple of weeks ago, spending money on this and that just to keep a float and I'm living below my means, it is so important to take stock of your financial situation and to see what you can make work.

You obviously don't, um, overspend on things you don't get greedy and you don't live luxuriously. I do none of those things. I'm very responsible with it because I want to make room for doing the things I love. Like traveling. And having all these experiences because they're so educational. So long story, short travel while you're young enables, don't worry about the money.

Just make it work. Okay. Because that money will come back. We will spend the rest of our lives working. Okay. You will not spend the rest of your life traveling. These instances only come around every now and again, you will make money the rest of your life. At least I hope that's the case. Uh, so that's it for today's episode, if you enjoyed it again, YouTube, Troy Farkas, the Troy Parker show.com is our home for all episodes, blogs, podcasts, videos.

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I so appreciate it. And again, you can leave a review over on the Troy fracture.com. I hope you all have a good weekends that you do something fun that you get together with friends and get outside and all of these great things that I tell you to do every week. I hope you do them, and I hope you can all enjoy.

This time, because time is precious and you never know when it's gonna be taken away from you. So have a great weekend. Y'all we'll be back on Monday. Talk to you soon.