May 10, 2021

virtue signaling: are you really down for the cause?

virtue signaling: are you really down for the cause?

Change starts with action, not words. On today's episode, we discuss how young people are at the forefront of so much great change happening in the world and how, unfortunately, some of us are talking a big game but not actually doing anything about it.

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Today's quote: "Start before you think you're ready." - Matt D'Avella

Today's essay:

We like to impress other people.

It makes sense. We’ve sought outside approval since the beginning of time. From an evolutionary standpoint, if the group didn’t accept you, it left you behind. If you didn’t side with the majority, you were forgotten, left for dead.

Today, we do the same thing. So, of course we should value the opinions of those closest to us -- the people in our own groups -- and do our best to make them proud.

But we shouldn’t cater our behavior to appease the majority, the people we hardly know, or might never know.

Unfortunately, these days, we tend to skew more toward the latter, with this behavior often coming off as disingenuous.

This is called “virtue signaling,” and it’s something you and I are guilty of committing.

And we shouldn’t be proud of that.

The next time you think about placing that bumper sticker on your car, sharing that image on Twitter, wearing that shirt or mounting that sign in your front window, ask yourself, “Do I actually believe what I’m putting out there? Or am I doing so just because everyone else is and it’s the ‘cool’ thing to do?”

Ask yourself this, too, “Am I actually doing anything to fight the good fight?”

I say this, because so many young people today are quick to say they’re down for the cause, but how many of you are really down for the cause?

How many of you have donated money, or time?

How many of you have gotten your hands dirty and done the real work required to make change?

To be clear, it’s perfectly fine to share that image, retweet that post, or send that article. More awareness is always a good thing.

But actions speak louder than words.

Are you sharing that content because you truly believe it, and plan on doing something about it?

Or just because you think it makes you look good?

It’s called activism for a reason.

So, if you truly believe in your cause, then take an active role in advancing it.

Because if you don’t, you’re just lying.

Lying to the world. Lying to yourself. And worst of all, using someone else’s struggle to push your own agenda.

Is that the kind of person you want to be?

peace and love.

Transcript

Good morning, everyone. And welcome to another episode of the Troy Farkas  show. The podcast that is not about me. It is about all the twenties are a crucial time in our lives. And on this show, we navigate the highs and lows of early adulthood together. If you were just joining the show for the first time.

Welcome, thank you for, for tuning in and subscribing, downloading to the show. Sincerely appreciate it. If you don't know what we do on this show is Mondays. Some thoughts about the previous weekend and maybe some lessons learned some experiences from all my adventures and conversations that I have. And then we focus on an essay that I have written that contains maybe some wisdom or some research or some advice for people geared specifically for people in the 18 to 30, 32 age range.

As we are still trying to figure it out, trying to figure out who we are. So thank you for joining me. I sincerely appreciate it. A quick weekend. Recap for me. So Friday I went to Boulder, Colorado, a dream come true. For those of you who know huge Halsy fan first policy song I ever heard was obviously closer with the Chainsmokers.

So there's the shout out to Boulder there. So it was a dream come true, being in Boulder and listening to that song, such a cool college town, university of Colorado, Boulder. I imagine it's on the top of lists in the country for one of the best college towns out there is so cool. The flat iron mountains dominate the city, uh, Pearl street, great place to be the hail gray area, the sink, great restaurant, just a little, just a little hole in the wall.

Everyone writes their names on the ceiling, writing and markers and crayons. It's just a really cool place. President Obama eaten there guy for years, he's been there for diners drive-ins and dives. So I had a great dinner there spent the day. Boulder on Friday, Saturday, and my body's kind of run down. So I said to myself, you know what, I'm just going to try to chill.

I'm going to tie, try to take a break. And, uh, I failed. I'm not good at it. I tried just giving my body a break, getting off my feet because I'm spending so much time on foot on bike. Uh, out here in Centennial, Colorado. And so I just tried watching some funny YouTube videos. The weather was kind of crappy, so I just stayed inside and, uh, watched SNL and tried to see what would happen to doge squad.

And cause it was a lot of fun watching that. So that was my weekend. I hope you guys all had a great weekend that you got together, maybe with your mothers and had a wonderful day with them mothers. Are the, the rocks. There's so many great women in my life. So many great mothers out there. Shout out to all of you, you know who you are.

My mom, mama Farkas, of course, some of the other great moms, my friend, Suzanne Hannigan, shout out to you, Carol McDonnell and so many more great moms out there. So you guys are really the bedrock of this society here. And I thank you for everything that you do. Cause I know putting up with me and putting up with my friends and my generation was not easy.

So, uh, thank you to all the mothers out there. I was inspired by my conversation with Alexis Porter last week. If you haven't listened to it yet, I do suggest you go check it out. We had a great wide range of conversation, uh, about her wrestling career, her decision to walk away from it from her Olympic dream.

And we talked a lot about racism and her activism role that she has taken on over the last year in the wake of the murder of George Floyd, a very important conversation. I'm glad we had it. Um, but it made me think, and this is something that I've thought about for a while, and I'm going to try not to get controversially here.

I don't want to make it about politics or anything, but I do notice a lot out here, this thing called virtue signaling, for those of you who don't know what virtue signaling is, it is basically just putting something out there in today's society. It just happens to be via social media, but it has always happened in whatever medium in the past.

But today it is people, post things, people share things, people send articles, they do whatever about a cause that the public is really behind and a person will share whatever because everyone else is, but they don't necessarily believe it nor have they necessarily done anything to further that cause or advance that.

Cause you know how we all, um, Whenever there is a tragedy or something. We all say thoughts and prayers. And a lot of the people that are involved with the tragedy say, you know, your thoughts and prayers are great, but we could really use some action, be behind wherever thoughts and prayers don't don't change anything.

It's been a common reoccurrence over the past few years, as there was just been mounting of tragedies all throughout the world. And so it's kind of like this. Your posts that you have, it's great to spread awareness for a cause, but are you actually doing anything because it's the doing that actually matters and impacts things.

So that's kind of what this essay is about. So I just wanted to give you a little context for that. So here's today's essay. You can also find it this entire podcast on the Troy Farkas YouTube channel, and this post in the show notes of this episode and over on the Troy Parker show.com. You hope you enjoy it.

We'd like to impress other people. It makes sense. We've sought outside approval since the beginning of time. From an evolutionary standpoint, if the group didn't accept you LFT behind, if you didn't side with the majority, you were forgotten, left for dead

today, we do the same thing. So of course we should value the opinions of those closest to us, the people in our own groups and do our best to make them proud. But we shouldn't cater our behavior to appease the majority. The people we hardly know. Or might never know. And unfortunately these days we tend to skew more toward the latter with this behavior.

Often coming off as disingenuous, this is called virtue signaling, and it's something you and I. Or guilty of committing and we shouldn't be proud of

the next time you think about placing that bumper sticker on your car, sharing that image on Twitter, wearing that shirt or mounting that sign in your front window, ask yourself, have I actually done anything to further this cause, or am I doing this just because everyone else says, and it's the coolest thing to do.

Ask yourself. Am I actually doing anything to fight the good fight? I say this because so many young people today are quick to say they're down for the cause. How many of you are really down for the cause? How many of you have given money? We're time. How many of you have gotten your hands dirty and done the real work required to make change, to be clear, it's perfectly fine to share that image, retweet that post or send that article more awareness is always a good thing, but actions speak louder than words.

Are you sharing that content because you truly believe it and plan on doing something about it. We're just because you think it makes you look good.

Remember it's called activism for a reason. So if you truly believe your cause, take an active role in advancing it, because if you don't, you're just lying, lying to the world, lying to yourself. And worst of all, using someone else's struggle to push your own agenda. Is that the kind of person you want to be.

So I want to make this clear. It is not a bad thing to send thoughts and prayers. It is not a bad thing to post something, to have a bumper sticker, or to have a sticker on your laptop. Whatever it is. However you choose to express yourself. All of those are good things. However, I feel if you really support the cause, if you're really down for the cause you will do something behind it.

I have not over the past year. I'm listen. I'm very down for the cause. I'm very down for the black lives matter. Cause as you heard me say last week, as I ranted, after talking to Alexis, we are all equal. We all deserve equal treatment. We should all just love each other and live in this ideal world and sing kumbaya.

All the time together. I truly believe that, but I know obviously that is, of course not, not the world that we live in. I would like it to be, but that is not. And so that's kind of how, how I feel. And I always kind of felt it would be disingenuous for me to, to post something, to say something, to share something publicly without actually doing anything.

Behind it, you know, so I've done things over the past year that I haven't told anyone about. I've just done them because it's the right thing. Whether it's giving money or doing a random act of kindness, uh, all in the name of trying to just show that we should all love everyone and that everyone is equal.

Um, but there are a lot of people and I certainly know people out there who are sharing things that they don't necessarily believe, but just because everyone else is doing it. And if everyone else is doing it, it must be right. And so I would just challenge all of you out there that before you post something, before you do whatever it is before you have that sticker, wear that shirt, drink that mug with that saying on it.

Actually be educated on it. Don't do it just because everyone else is doing it and no one's forcing you to no one, no one cares about you and what you have to say as much as you think that's kind of what I've gathered over the past year as well, is that people are just so much into their own business and their own thing that they're not super concerned about.

Oh my gosh, what did, what did Alyssa have to say to this? Oh my what, what did Joe have to say about this? People don't care as much. So, you know, if you don't want to post something, you don't have to. Just because everyone else's, it doesn't mean that people aren't going to raise an eyebrow feed. Oh man, he didn't, he didn't post this.

He must be a Trump guy or whatever, you know, and again, I'm not trying to get political, but all I'm saying is that if you're down for the cause, do something about it, actions speak louder than words, actions make change words. Don't, there's been a lot of amazing things that have happened over the last year.

Spurred by our generation who is tired of all the BS and is tired of the lies and is tired of people, not believing science and is tired of people, not believing love and believing in all these things that we believe. And we have been on the forefront of pushing for some amazing change. And I'm so glad.

Fricking proud to be a part of this generation because it is the young generation that always sees things for the way that they should be. It happened in the 1960s during the antiwar protest, during the civil rights movements and it's happened now, we are tired of all this BS. We envision a better world.

For ourselves and for our kids to live in. And this is exactly the type of world that I want to live in. And I'm so proud of us for pushing these changes and not taking no for an answer and for gathering and protesting and for challenging the status quo. And I love that. And I want to keep seeing that.

But don't be one of those people who is just saying things and not doing anything because action is what takes action is what makes governments make decisions. Action is what forces people to change. You know what I'm saying? So just think about that the next time that you hang, assign, wear a shirt, whatever it is.

Uh, just, just remember that I'm not trying to get controversial. I'm saying that. Just, just be more mindful of it, you know? So that's, that's today's episode. I'd love to hear what I'd love to hear what you think I'm open to pushback. I'm open to anything. Hit me up, slide into the DMS. I love hearing from you guys, whatever it is that you have to say.

Let me know if there's something that you want to hear more of. If there's something that I say that is wrong and you want to challenge me and call me out and I'm here for it. I'm so here for having a dialogue with all of you, with the little podcast community that we are building here. Um, so thank you.

You can hit me up at Troy Farkas on, on Instagram signs, the DMS, you can text me if you have my number, all those good things. You can check us out over at TheTroyFarkasSHow on Instagram and Tik TOK. TroyFarkasShow.com I've got a blog coming up on Wednesday, my five favorite Denver activities to do. I'm going to share all of those with you.

I hope you all have a great week. A week filled with hard work with leading, with learning, with, um, being productive and working out and having fun and getting outside, taking a lot of walks, maybe do a little meditating, maybe some yoga, some exercise and running biking, lifting of weights, whatever it is that you do, just be active and just get out of your comfort zone.

I say to every week, but I truly mean it. That's where the growth happens. I know, I know it's difficult and, um, whatever, cause it is that you want to support. Spread some awareness for it. That's awesome. But take the extra step because the spreading of the awareness really doesn't matter if you don't take that extra step.

So that's enough for me, Kara. Good luck to you this week as Syracuse enters the NCA tournament for women's lax, shout out to you, Kara, and for everything you're doing and shout out to all of you for listening. Thank you. And, uh, I'll talk to you Thursday.